Secure Attachment

A secure attachment style develops when a caregiver is consistently responsive, warm, and emotionally available. Children with secure attachment feel safe, valued, and confident exploring the world, knowing they can return to a reliable source of comfort. As adults, securely attached individuals tend to trust others, communicate openly, and maintain healthy boundaries. They are comfortable with intimacy and independence, able to navigate relationships with resilience and emotional balance. Securely attached people generally have a positive view of themselves and others, which supports stable, supportive relationships. This attachment style fosters emotional regulation, self-worth, and a strong capacity for connection and empathy. 

Anxious Attachment

Anxious attachment style develops when caregivers are inconsistent—sometimes loving, other times unavailable—creating uncertainty and insecurity in the child. As a result, individuals with anxious attachment often fear abandonment and crave closeness and reassurance. They may become overly preoccupied with relationships, sensitive to rejection, and seek constant validation. This can lead to clinginess, jealousy, or difficulty trusting others. Despite wanting deep connection, their fear of being hurt can create emotional highs and lows. Anxiously attached individuals often struggle with self-worth and may prioritize others’ needs over their own, hoping to secure love and acceptance. Healing involves building self-trust and emotional security.

Avoidant Attachment

Avoidant attachment style develops when caregivers are emotionally distant or unresponsive, leading children to suppress their needs and emotions to maintain connection. As adults, avoidantly attached individuals tend to value independence and self-reliance, often avoiding closeness or vulnerability in relationships. They may struggle to trust others, fear intimacy, and keep emotional distance to protect themselves from potential rejection or hurt. Avoidant individuals often downplay the importance of relationships and may appear emotionally detached or distant. Healing involves recognizing and expressing emotions, building trust, and learning to comfortably rely on others without fear of losing autonomy or control.

Disorganized Attachment

Disorganized attachment style arises from caregivers who are emotional, unpredictable, or abusive, leaving the child confused and fearful about seeking comfort. This creates a conflict between the desire for closeness and fear of the caregiver, resulting in chaotic, contradictory behaviors. Adults with disorganized attachment often struggle with emotional regulation, experience difficulty trusting others, and may exhibit unpredictable or self-sabotaging behaviors in relationships. They can feel overwhelmed by fear and shame, making intimacy and connection challenging. Healing involves creating safety, developing self-awareness, and gradually building trust and coherence in relationships, often through therapy and supportive environments that foster security and stability.

How Can We Help Heal Your Attachment Wounds?

At Polaris we’ll team up with you to help heal your attachment wounds by providing a safe, consistent, and empathetic environment where you can explore past relationship patterns and emotional pain. Through this supportive space, you’ll recognize and understand your attachment style and how it impacts your current relationships. We will work with you to develop healthier ways to relate, build trust, and regulate emotions. Using techniques like reflective listening, validation, and sometimes trauma-informed approaches, you can repair internalized negative beliefs about yourself and others. Over time, you’ll learn self-compassion, emotional resilience, and the ability to form secure, fulfilling connections.

Sounds good, right? Contact us today to start your journey.